He told me that his life is not complete. He is missing a big piece to the puzzle. He thinks that if we split up and he was able to date lots of women (which translates to: have sex with them) that he would feel happier. He wants to take a break from our marriage to make sure he made the right choice that there isn't another woman out there who is better for him. I can't do that! To me that is saying, "Let me make sure I don't love anyone else more than you, and if I don't find anyone else than I guess I will have to settle for you" To me that is totally disrespectful and hurtful. I really don't want this marriage to end. I love him so much. I want to help him feel whole. I feel so horrible that I can't be the woman to make him happy. I want him to be happy more than anything and if that means I have to let him go I will do that. But I don't want to to be an object that he can throw away and get back whenever he pleases.
Asked by Anonymous at 10:51 PM on Apr. 6, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by figaro8895 at 11:11 PM on Apr. 6, 2009
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Answer by Bmat at 10:57 PM on Apr. 6, 2009
Ok first thing is first. YOU can't make him happy or anyone else for that matter. He has to make himself happy. If he really feels this way, why are you holding on to him? He is giving you the hints that the marriage is pretty much over for him and he wants to explore other "slop jars" for lack of a better term. Do yourself a favor and tell him if he's not happy and doesn't feel complete and wants to play the field then you'll send him divorce papers. Don't stay with a man that would hurt you so bad and be willing to throw you away like yesterday's trash. There are so many men out there. I'm not saying you need another man right now but just know that your husband IS replaceable and from the sounds of it, it doesn't seem like it would take very much for him to be replaced at this point. You need to love yourself more than you love him and let him go. You can and will be happy without him.
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