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Will I have to pay my ex husband allemony if he is living with another women?

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Asked by dorky83 at 1:40 AM on Apr. 7, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Yes. Unless the court or your lawyer can negotiate otherwise. If you earned more than him or he was a stay at home parent and you worked and earned the majority of the money - you will most likely have to pay spousal support. Only if he marries will you get out of having to pay. But co-habitating is not the same as marriage. At least that is the way it is in California.

    Answer by kathyartist2007 at 1:45 AM on Apr. 7, 2009

  • Is he a stay at home dad or husband?
    As long as he doesn't marry, then he's entitled to the money if the court orders it (lots of people don't get remarried but will live together for that reason).

    Answer by lisa_ann_p at 8:15 AM on Apr. 7, 2009

  • heyyy,at the moment that is one of the hot topics on a local[south african]soapie.except it not alimony its settlement money she made modelling overseas while he shacked up with another woman.but yeah,if the court orders it then i'd have no choice right?as long as he doesnt remarry.then this atm would close.

    Answer by 2ndtimemom605 at 8:23 AM on Apr. 7, 2009

  • Unless he marries her, yes.

    Answer by mama4Christ361 at 9:01 AM on Apr. 7, 2009

  • It doesn't matter if he is living with someone, unless he remarries, you will continue to pay it.

    Answer by DDry at 9:38 AM on Apr. 7, 2009

  • If you are not divorced yet or in the process..
    You can state that you will not pay alimony if he is cohabitating with another.
    It may work or you can state that if they intend to get married then the alimony will ends.
    If you do pay alimony make sure it states for how long and under what stipulations.
    I come from an alimony state here...

    Answer by Dannee at 9:41 AM on Apr. 7, 2009

  • You left out a lot of information but let's begin with this. Do you have to pay him court ordered alimony now? If so, then yes it has to continue until such time that he remarries or says he no longer wants the money (like that would happen!) If you don't have a court ordered alimony payment required then you don't have to pay him squat since he's already an x. In other words he can't go back and ask for it. Since you asked "WILL I....?" that makes it sound like you are not divorced yet. Many things require him to be eligible for alimony (spousal maintenance). Check your state statutes to find out what they are but if he is living with her and you can prove she pays his bills that shows he has no need for your income. Also, there is usually a time frame for S.M. Where you married a long time? If he has adequate income of his own he won't need your's either. So there is a lot to consider. An attorney will advise you better.

    Answer by admckenzie at 10:42 AM on Apr. 7, 2009

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