i need your support. i posted about my SO AND the pics of his women friends explicit videos on my computer. well we finally talked after all of bullshist. he said he doesnt know why he did it but he did. i said then change stop doing this and he said havent i changed enough? i said if you want to be with me the change this too.. and he said i dont know i said okk then were taking a break and you sleep down stairs and do w/e you want and i sleep upstairs and i do what i want.. so yeah..
i did do the right thing? please ladies reasure!!!
Answer by figaro8895 at 2:44 AM on Apr. 7, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 2:37 AM on Apr. 7, 2009
Answer by MommaBear1129 at 2:46 AM on Apr. 7, 2009
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Answer by MommaBear1129 at 2:58 AM on Apr. 7, 2009
I think he's going to be who he is (not saying that what he's doing is right) I have a stronger opinion about him not helping around the house than I do about the porn, but that's me. If he feels he has changed enough, he has set his boundries. If you feel you cannot cope with this, you have set yours. If those boundaries are too far apart, going your separate ways may be the answer.
Answer by mandaday at 3:11 AM on Apr. 7, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 6:19 AM on Apr. 7, 2009
It seems like you are the one working on the relationship. If only one is working is won't work. You need to be strong. I'd attempt to get him to counselling with you. He seems like he does not care as much, and that can be bad for the relationship. You can't shove your feelings at him, but wait and see if this change works. It seems like only time will tell.
Answer by Teachermom01 at 6:54 AM on Apr. 7, 2009
Sweetie, only you know how much you are willing to put up with in this relationship. But I can tell you, that it is impossible to be in love enough for the both of you. I commend you for not walking away without giving him the opportunity to make amends for this. He does have to make a decision. Just know if he decides he wants to "play the field" so to speak, then it is not your fault. I know that it does take two to end a relationship, but if you are honestly doing your part and communicating with him, being non confrontational (which is hard in this situation) about it, then you are doing what you can. If you gave him 2 months I guess you have to wait it out and see where things go from here. I just pray you guys can use these next few weeks to really talk about issues and concerns in your marriage and not use them to play the "how far can we push each other" game. This is rough and I will be praying for you.
Answer by Tzutchka at 9:40 AM on Apr. 7, 2009
Answer by admckenzie at 10:55 AM on Apr. 7, 2009
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