Imagine being very young (18), getting married to a much older man who lied about everything so you would marry him including saying he could have children and actually it is impossible. Would you divorce him? stay because your only family is halfway around the world? stay because you don't believe in divorce? seriously, what would you do?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 2:39 AM on Apr. 8, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Bearsjen at 2:42 AM on Apr. 8, 2009
Answer by SusieD250 at 2:42 AM on Apr. 8, 2009
I married a man that lied to me every time his lips moved. I had a wonderful boy who is now 10 and I have taught him to never lie to a woman. He still continues to lie, therefore we will be in court on the 20th where he wil lie some more and I literally have to ask God for help, when I know he has better things to do.
Answer by Gigi1969 at 2:48 AM on Apr. 8, 2009
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Answer by NannyB. at 9:11 AM on Apr. 8, 2009
I didn't get married young, so I really can't relate with that portion of it. I wouldn't have gotten married based on promises. I understand that you thought he was telling you the truth about having a family, and for many women that's a deep desire. I didn't have that same desire. I had known many women that had miscarriages so I wasn't all that convinced that it would be that easy to have a family. I married a man that I loved so much that it wouldn't have mattered to me if we had kids or not. Anything we were able to accomplish together was just a plus.
In your position, I am not sure what I would do. If you have an overwhelming desire to have kids but still love your husband, maybe check into sperm banks. If you feel your marriage is based on lies, perhaps starting over with someone on the same page as you is a better idea. Good luck, the road ahead will be difficult, but I hope it pays off for you.
Answer by QuinnMae at 9:16 AM on Apr. 8, 2009
Answer by aliciatron at 9:24 AM on Apr. 8, 2009