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what do u do with a 4 1/2 year old who hits punches and bites himself when he is mad or in trouble

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angelmommy83338

Asked by angelmommy83338 at 3:33 PM on Apr. 9, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • if he isn't actually hurting himself then let him go. if hes hurting himself, causing bruises, breaking skin restrain him from doing it (bear hug from behind, sit on him whatever works for him to keep him still) til he calms down and then still do his punishment. it may be just a way to distract you from punishing him and if he gets alot of attention and you stray from the time out or whatever it was, or if you try to make him happy when hes mad about the fact that he can't have a cookie then he thinks its working. if thats not it you may need to mention it to your doc next time you go in in case its a bigger issue
    vabchmommy

    Answer by vabchmommy at 3:35 PM on Apr. 9, 2009

  • vabchmommy has given great advice.

    BEXi

    Answer by BEXi at 3:38 PM on Apr. 9, 2009

  • You may also want to consider re-directing his aggression to something inanimate, like a pillow, a bop bag, or something else he can hit to get his frustration/energy/anger out while reinforcing that hitting ANYBODY, even himself, is not a good choice. Trying to stop aggressive behavior is less effective in the long run than re-directing it to an appropriate display of aggression. This will also help as he gets older to learn how to express his anger, etc. in an appropriate manner through self-re-direction, rather than trying to hold it in and then exploding when the emotions get to be too much or waiting for someone else to stop him.
    JPsMommy605

    Answer by JPsMommy605 at 8:23 PM on Apr. 9, 2009

  • Don't know if this will work for you but when my son did this I gently and very very calmly took his hands and told him no no, don't hurt my baby. After a few times it worked.

    dreyamom

    Answer by dreyamom at 12:18 AM on Apr. 10, 2009

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