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changing bedtime......

i need to know what to do. She doesnt go to bed til 3 am. My husband and i need to be in the bed before then. She takes regular naps....on time everyday. I dont know how to get her to sleep earlier.....?

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Asked by TNT8687 at 9:45 PM on Apr. 9, 2009 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • put her to bed when you need her to go to sleep. make her last meal a bit before then, and then do something really soothing. maybe a bath or lotion time or reading. something calm so she knows it's not get up and play time. if you want her in bed by 9 or 10, then simply lay her down. let her know you love her, but let her understand that it's not awake time. she may cry at first, just come back in after like 5 minutes, (don't pick her up!) let her know you're there if she needs you, then leave again... if she continues to cry, give it maybe a few more than 5minutes.
    it is hard to hear them cry, but she will, I promise, get used to going to bed this early. if she's up till 3, then something you two are doing is allowing her to believe it's ok. how old is she? it may take a few days, maybe even a week, but she will adjust to what you want her on.

    Answer by Adeline1210 at 9:51 PM on Apr. 9, 2009

  • You need to adjust when she wakes up and shift the rest of her schedule by the same amount of time. For example, if she normally wakes up at 10AM, start waking her up at 9AM and move her naps back one hour as well. Adjust it 30minutes to a half an hour every 2 weeks or so for a smoother transition.

    Answer by Austinka at 10:01 PM on Apr. 9, 2009

  • Like these guys said, try slowly adjusting the time back. We actually did it really dramatically. My son was on a 6AM-2PM "nighttime" schedule that had us pulling our hair out. One night, we started putting him to bed at 10:30 with a routine (routine is VITAL). He took to it very quickly! Then we bumped it to about 8PM, and he took to it. Then we slowly kept bumping it back, until we were starting the bedtime routine about 6:15 or 6:30, and he was asleep by 7:30. He still wakes up to nurse at night (we cosleep), but it's SOOOO much better now! If your a no CIO mom like me, try reading "The No Cry Sleep Solution." It really helped us. Good luck!!

    Answer by musicpisces at 4:25 AM on Apr. 10, 2009

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