Okay my DF and I are getting married this June, we have already told everyone, and have sent out invites with RSVP cards to return, the envelopes are even already stamped, but we have not recieved any of them back yet......and to be honest I dont think his family (aunts and uncles and grandpa) are all that thrilled with the fact that he is going to marry me and he didnt marry his ex (they have two kids together, and she is friends with all of his family still why IDK really its kind of stupid that she just hasnt moved on yet, but she doesnt even spend holidays with her own family just with his), anyhow I am worried that because of this and the fact that we have yet to receive any of our RSVP cards back I just dont think anyone is going to come and its because of that. I am a little Upset about it and not sure if I should be or not. Everyone was all nice when we told them but now I am thinking that they think he is making a....
Asked by Anonymous at 2:34 PM on Apr. 10, 2009 in Relationships
I can understand that it's hurtful but marrying someone is about more than the wedding. The wedding is just a celebration. If you are having these feelings now, are you sure you want to be in this situation? Sounds like the ex is always going to be a big part of your life and his family loves her. Are you ready to accept that? Are you ok with being second best? Are you ok with your children maybe being treated differently than hers? Don't go into a marriage thinking things will change because for the most part, they won't. It takes more than love for a marriage to survive just keep that in mind.
Answer by legalmommy101 at 2:45 PM on Apr. 10, 2009
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I understand OP. Sound like you are marrying him for the right reasons. You aren't just marrying him though. When you marry a man with children you are marrying a packaged deal and all the extras that come along with that. It sounds like over all , you are happy and that's great. Just keep in mind that the small things like I mentioned can become explosive if not dealt with in a healthy manner. I've been in this situation (not the ex problem) but I know first hand how it sucks when you feel like you are not part of the family and you see your children being treated differently. If they don't come...it's their problem not yours.
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