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what is going on with her

my 20 month old will not go to sleep !!! she has always gone down for her nap, put herself to sleep. would sleep from 1pm to 3pm. then to bed no later than 7:30 and sleep 12 hours. suddenly she sits in her bed screaming and i mean screaming. tonight i had to stand next to her crib and softly rub the side of her face til she fell asleep. i do not mind helping her fall asleep and i would love to be able to do it all the time, but i also have a 8 month old that may not always be content or happy. my hubby always helps out but is not always home at bedtime due to classes and deff is not home for nap time. this has been going on for the past 4 days, i can not leave her in there screaming like that. i did the cry it out when she was much younger and it worked perfectly and she HAD been an awesome sleeper. i just dont know what happened.

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Asked by lilredsfrm67 at 8:14 PM on Apr. 10, 2009 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Children's sleep patterns change all the time. It may be a time of change for your child. If you don't have a bedtime ritual, you may want to start one now in order to get her in the mindset of going to bed plenty of time before she actually goes to bed. She might need a nightlight, or soft music, or "white noise" in the background (I use a small fan), or something to cuddle with. She may even be teething and feeling uncomfortable.
    It must be very time consuming to have two little ones who are so close in age, but if you can incorporate some time with her for bedtime preparation, you will be laying the foundation to a routine for many years ahead that she will look forward to each night, which actually makes her feel safe and secure.
    Best wishes and hugs!

    Answer by PrydferthMenyw at 8:31 PM on Apr. 10, 2009

  • One of my little guys went through that. It was because he didn't want to miss the fun of what was happening while he slept.
    As soon as I started telling him what we would do when he woke up he would calm right down.
    So like today at naptime I said " I know you are sleepy right now, so when you wake up we will have time to play with playdough... you want to play with playdough right. Then you need to go to sleep and it will be time for playdough when you get up."

    Answer by Nathskitten at 8:38 PM on Apr. 10, 2009

  • she actually does have a very good bedtime routine that she has had for a very long time, in fact once everything is done, she will walk right to her room saying night night. she has all the things she needs..........her blanky, nightlight, and her soft music. all of this has been working for soooo long. i always try to make sure that her lil sister is all taken care of so i have that quality time with her.

    Answer by lilredsfrm67 at 9:21 PM on Apr. 10, 2009

  • The bed time thing might tie in to her nap time. Not getting enough sleep makes kids and babies more cranky. The reason for her not getting enough sleep could be a lot of things. Growing pains, pattern changes, etc. Try giving her a nice warm bath before bed to help relax her muscle. This may help if it's growing pains. You can try asking her to point to where it hurts, but she may be too young for her to understand that.
    Good luck, hope this helps a little

    Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 10:25 PM on Apr. 10, 2009

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