Im now 30 weeks pregnant and getting more nervous than ever! Not about the babies though (?) Recently I caught my SO cheating on me, we decided to work through it went through couples counseling and that has seemed to help but Im still very angry with him ( I have every right to be) He asked me to marry him and I would love to but Im just really scared of getting a divorce and cheated on again I told him I wanted to wait and it hurt his feelings, those of you who decided to try and work things out with your cheating spouse how did you deal?
The biggest suggestion I can make for the two of you is counseling.Â Figure out what it is that you and him both want from the relationship. Your scared right now because of what he did. He's trying to make it all be OK with marriage as his answer.Â Which is probably something that you had been wanting, and now he's playing on that to make it all better. (I see it as a band-aid on a huge wound)Â Please take it slow.Â Love can outlast the biggest problems, but only if two are working on it.
My dh and I have been married for 24 years. He made a very poor decision about two years ago. It took two rounds of marriage counseling and time. I still have trust issues, but with his help and our wanting to work it out, we are getting there. So it is possible to recover, but it takes both of you to make it happen.
Hugs to you and baby.
Answer by Anonymous at 6:16 AM on Apr. 11, 2009
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Answer by Buffie95 at 8:28 AM on Apr. 11, 2009
Personally I think when you said you wanted to work things out that meant you would let the anger go. So no I don't think you have every right to still be angry. Either get over it or leave.
Answer by Navymama at 9:22 AM on Apr. 11, 2009
Answer by admckenzie at 10:08 AM on Apr. 11, 2009
I'm sorry but I don't agree that him cheating means he wants to get married. That's the craziest thing I've heard yet... today.
Answer by Navymama at 10:17 AM on Apr. 11, 2009
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