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How can you get your spouse to go to church with you?

Mine doesn't want to.

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 2:23 PM on Apr. 11, 2009 in Religion & Beliefs

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  • Then don't make him, unless you want him to start resenting you and your religion.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:26 PM on Apr. 11, 2009

  • OP you can't make anyone want to do anything. Continue to go yourself and if he doesn't come with you then let that be that. If you nag him he will never go. If you guilt him he will not go for the right reason. And the only right reason is he wants to go for himself not for you.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:26 PM on Apr. 11, 2009

  • you can not make someone go to church. All you will do is create resentment in your spouse. If he doesn't want to go, don't make him. You could tell him it would mean a lot for him to be by your side, but other than that let it go.
    ZaTa

    Answer by ZaTa at 2:26 PM on Apr. 11, 2009

  • Let it go. If you bug him about it or try to make him feel bad he still won't go. Don't create a wedge in your marriage. If he goes let him know how much it meant to you.
    pnwmom

    Answer by pnwmom at 2:30 PM on Apr. 11, 2009

  • If he doesn't want to go that is his perogative, let him know how you feel & why would you would like to share your spiritual life, then let it go. Each of us has to make our own spiritual choices.
    nysa00

    Answer by nysa00 at 2:35 PM on Apr. 11, 2009

  • i agree that you can't make him. But also what are his reasons? Is the church boring? Is there something he doesnt like about IT or your religion itself? My church has a group called "Manna for Men" and they always invite husbands and men who arent interested in church, to their BBQ's, bowling and social get togethers. The guys end up connecting with them in they feel more comfortable and open to the idea of church.
    So no don't make him but see what he doesnt like and see if you can accomodate that. If not, prayer ALWAYS works!
    MamaChamp

    Answer by MamaChamp at 2:38 PM on Apr. 11, 2009

  • All you can do is pray for him. A lady in our church's husband for years would not go with her. More than 20 years has passed, and the only time he misses now is if he's working.

    It's not hopeless, but I agree with the others...don't nag. Take your children so they will learn of God, but don't pressure him. He may go because of your example later on, but chances are, he's watching to see if you're the real thing.
    rhope4

    Answer by rhope4 at 2:54 PM on Apr. 11, 2009

  • You can't make anyone do what they don't want to do. The best thing to do is to keep going without him, still invite him even if you know he will say no, and pray for him.
    4Nalon

    Answer by 4Nalon at 2:57 PM on Apr. 11, 2009

  • You cant force it. That will just lead to bitterness and no one needs that in their marriage.

    Just ask and if he says no say alright just remember the door is always open for you to go with me(something like that).

    BonesDragonDew

    Answer by BonesDragonDew at 3:48 PM on Apr. 11, 2009

  • The best way is by example.
    IRA871

    Answer by IRA871 at 6:37 PM on Apr. 11, 2009

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