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What is the most important?

Me & my ex are working on getting back together. I'd just like everyone's opinion as to what are the top 5 things in a relationship to you. We're going to sit down soon and talk about things, so i'm just looking for topics. Just ideas, ya know?


Asked by sweetevilness23 at 12:37 PM on Apr. 13, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Honesty (don't lie to me ever, I won't lie to you ever; lets always be open and truthful to each other)
    Respect (treat me the way you'd like to be treated kind of' thing; verbal and physical abuse will never be tolerated because that is beyond disrespectful)
    Understanding (I'm not perfect, you're not perfect, let us grow with each other and learn, but understand it may take time to fix old habits and if the habit is not harmful then let it go; Pick & choose your battles)
    Determination (I will work my arse off to keep this marriage going, you will too, and that means we listen to each other, and work on faults. It means never sleep separately, nor go to bed angry, we are both determined to make this work no matter what)
    Equality (The home, children, and everything is 50/50, no separate bank accounts all money is both of ours and when we're both home it will be a partnership to get things done not all on ones shoulders)

    Answer by Knightquester at 3:38 PM on Apr. 13, 2009

  • Honesy, trust, communication, affection, financial responsiblity (not in any specific order)

    Answer by DDry at 12:39 PM on Apr. 13, 2009

    are the top five and not necessarily in that order, but are the most important (besides love-that is a given)

    Answer by amy31308 at 12:39 PM on Apr. 13, 2009

  • Trust, Honesty, Stability, Respect, Love. Also talk about the rolls of each of you in the home. What you expect from one another when it comes to cooking, cleaning, child care. Talk about finances and how you want to deal with bills and who will pay what.

    Answer by brailynsmama08 at 12:39 PM on Apr. 13, 2009

  • Trust, time together, what you each want out of the realtionship

    Answer by Vanessannd at 12:39 PM on Apr. 13, 2009

  • trust honesty faithfulness communication and understanding. talk it over express ur feelings and whether itll make them mad or not tell them everything. thats wut makes a good relationship.

    Answer by xhellxfirex495 at 12:41 PM on Apr. 13, 2009

  • trust, honesty, money (not how much but how it is taken care of, cause of most divorces/splits), how to take care of your child (what you want to instill, how you will do it, discipline that kinda thing, if you don't agree on the major stuff than it will just be an issue, if you agree for most of it and don't agree for the rest, thats fine thats what teaches a child diff views but you still have to agree for the big stuff), who does what (when it comes to child care, paying bills, taking care of house, chores, errands that kind of thing, if one person gets stuck with it they will resent the other and the other one will probably not even realize what they are not doing)....ummm i think those are some of the major things that seem not so major until you get into the thick of things...i don't find religion to be a big thing, then again DH and i are of the same mentality there so i guess if we weren't i probably would. COnt

    Answer by vabchmommy at 12:41 PM on Apr. 13, 2009

  • honesty trust communication loyalty and sex

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:42 PM on Apr. 13, 2009

  • those are the issues we have come across since we got married and found that they were more signifigant than we thought in the first place (except honesty and trust i think those are a given have to have in any type of relationship)

    Answer by vabchmommy at 12:42 PM on Apr. 13, 2009

  • trust, openness, honesty, communication,friendship, respect of opinions.....

    Answer by Owl_Feather at 12:42 PM on Apr. 13, 2009