This might not work for you, but it really helped me through a hectic time when I was absolutely overwhelmed: the first thing that occurred to me was maybe not worrying so much about what time things are supposed to happen? I know that living with someone with autism, that may be difficult as schedules can be quite important for them - but it sounds like your schedule isn't consistent AND you have stress over it. Perhaps just for a little while, you could practice accepting your inconsistent schedule - let it be what it is, without stressing over it. I just know that when I finally decided to just enjoy the life that I had, no matter what time we were having breakfast or going to bed, that it did wonders for me. Giving up that attachment to "this isn't what it's supposed to look like!" and saying, "this IS what it looks like"... it was a huge difference. And it gave me the mental space to revisit it when I was ready.
at 11:43 PM on Apr. 13, 2009