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Does a child pick up traits from the birth father who is never around or is it possible that the child picks up on the father figure in its life every day?


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Asked by carebear862005 at 1:42 AM on Apr. 15, 2009 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • Personality traits are learned. They are going to be picked up from the people who are around them, and are going to be learned by the reactions they get to those traits.

    However, there are some things that you can be genetically linked to a birth parent, like, for example, alcoholism has a genetic link to it as well - NOT that you ARE going to be one just because there is a genetic disposition to it, but that it would be easier for you to become one if / when you start drinking.

    But things like lying, cheating, that sorts of stuff, they are going to copy what they see, and if they start picking up a trait that's a problem (say, stealing), if you deal with it with negative consequences and nip it in the bud then it's less likely to develop into a full blown personality trait the kid has.

    Answer by sailorwifenmom at 1:48 AM on Apr. 15, 2009

  • Well the child will pick up behavioral traits by whomever is around. And biological traits from the bio father.

    Answer by MamaChamp at 1:48 AM on Apr. 15, 2009

  • Your child will learn and grow to be a good person from you and the father figure that is in their life.

    If their biological father is aggressive and horrible, this does not mean that your child will be at all. If you are bringing them up in a beautiful environment and doing your best I wouldnt worry.


    Answer by Anonymous at 6:24 AM on Apr. 15, 2009

  • My cousin is adopted. Her birthmother is my best friend. While my cousin has never met her birthmother, she has a lot of the same traits as my best friend does. Their personality is very similar.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:59 AM on Apr. 15, 2009

  • It's a mix. Some things are nature and some are nurture.  Ask any parent who has two completely different kids! :)  If father had a temp, child may have the same temper, but with nurture, you may be able to help child deal with it better. 


    Answer by Anonymous at 9:02 AM on Apr. 15, 2009

  • Both...there are going to be things you cant control such as hair color, eye color, facial features, and even some personality quirks and preferences, then theres learned behavior. Those things that he learns from being around it. As much as you don't want him to be the other mans baby,....its still something that has to be dealt with.

    Answer by momofsaee at 9:11 AM on Apr. 15, 2009

  • Some things are genetic.... my DH brother is SO much like his dad in things he does and mannerisms and his parents were divorced and he hardly ever saw his father... so it wasn't learned behavior.

    Answer by AmiJanell at 10:06 AM on Apr. 15, 2009

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