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potty training advice

i have a daughter that will be 3 in may. she doesn't talk yet and we have her in speech therapy. thing is since she doesn't talk i find it hard to know if she needs to go potty as she won't say yes or no. i put her undies on and just put her on through out the day. so far nothing. she goes through the motions of wiping and flushing. i don't know what else to do or tricks to get her to continue with it. she doesn't show any signs of being ready yet like secretly going bathroom somewhere or things to show she needs trained. i'm beginning to think she might have autism.....could autism be going on here as well?


Asked by melody77 at 1:31 PM on Apr. 15, 2009 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Asking a child if she needs to go potty never actually works, even if they speak in complete sentences! The answer is always "no" even if the child is doing the squirming and holding herself, trying not to pee. I'm sure she has some way of communicating her needs to you for other things (hunger, discomfort, wanting a toy, etc), and that's all you need. She does need to understand what you say, though, so that she can understand what you're asking her to do. If taking her to the potty periodically isn't working, I would try waiting until she has an accident, moving her to the potty when she starts to go. It's a lot of clean-up, but it works. Each time you just explain that that's where pee pee goes. Reward her if some makes it in. Good luck.

    Answer by EmilySusan at 2:04 PM on Apr. 15, 2009

  • I did what Kaycee describes as the "Bare butt method" only she wore underwear. You can still see when the accident begins, but I've heard that some kids who train successfully with a bare bottom have to be retrained when the pants go on... (obviously not every child is like that, since it worked for Kaycee), but for us it worked just fine with underwear on. We never took her at intervals, we just started this way... she trained quickly.

    Answer by EmilySusan at 3:11 PM on Apr. 15, 2009

  • EmilySusan is right. Once the excitement and newness of using the potty wears off, kids will say "NO" if you ask since telling you "Yes" means they are willing to leave their toys. Have you ever met a young child willing to stop playing to go do something boring? Of course not.

    For now, just keep taking her on a set schedule. Eventually she will go on accident. Make a big fuss over her when she does.
    Another method is the bare butt method. Leave her with no pants at all so you can see when she starts to pee. She'll see it too which helps kids make the connection between the feeling and the actual pee. When you see her start to go, swoop her up and take her to the potty. This is what ended up working for us.

    Answer by kaycee14 at 2:56 PM on Apr. 15, 2009