My sister is about the same age as I am, three years younger, going through college right now. I've taken notice of her choosing to ditch class, skip work, and even put off cleaning (herself and her apartment). Am I just being judgemental by pointing out she needs to shape up?
She normally didn't have a problem keeping up and making A's, now all she does is play World of Warcraft and nothing else gets any attention. :( Should I just do nothing and let her learn from the consequences or try to intervene?
You can try and tell her what you feel, but really it's her life. My brother is a looser, lazy, and has a major drug habit that keeps him from participating in life, and many family events because he's too messed up. When I took steps to tell him my concerns, and my reactions to them, he withdrew, got mad at me and it damaged our already rocky relationship. He's the baby, I'm the first born. A pep talk from you probably won't change her world. Sounds like she might be depressed. If I said anything to her, I would keep it very light. "I'm concerned about you, I've noticed these changes in your life...etc. If it's not depression, clearly she's choosing this out of happiness over it. Sounds like she wants to live like this and some people do. We always want more for our loved ones sometimes more than they want for themselves. xoxo, your friend.
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