I had a dream last night that I was at a place w/ DH and there was another woman there. She started coming on to him in a familiar way and I come to find out that he has been cheating with her. I am devastated in my dream and I beat the snot out of her. IRL, DH and I have been having problems and I don't really trust him right now. We have been to therapy, but that seems to be slow going. I was wondering if anyone else had these types of dreams and if they were indicative of problems that you were having at the time IRL?
Asked by Anonymous at 3:05 PM on Apr. 17, 2009 in Relationships
I have never had those dreams but I have a psychology degree and dreams have been a topic of interest with me. Make sure you bring this dream up with your therapist. Even little things like being able to see the woman's face, what she looked like, what she was wearing, etc. can mean something (not always though). Chances are, the dream is just a representation of your lack of trust with him right now. When things are hard, we tend to trust a little less and lose part of that bond we have with the other person. That's normal when you are going through a rough patch. This dream is totally normal and it doesn't mean your husband is cheating. Bring it up in therapy so you can really work through it. But don't assume it means he is doing something. Your dream was a trip through your subconscious, not his.
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Answer by Anonymous at 3:29 PM on Apr. 17, 2009
He dropped a bomb on me and told me that he isn't happy a few months ago. I since had found out that he was talking to a woman he used to work with, he insists that it was never physical. I know she had some problems (her DH was killed by police and she has a young child to care for on her own). They seemed to talk a lot (which translates to me at very least as an emotional affair). I told him that he needs to completely stop all communication with her, he says he has. I don't see her number anymore on the cell records, but for all I know he see's her everyday. I want to trust him, we have been together for over 10 years. We have two kids together. I think there is a good chance that he is going through some midlife thing. I talk to the therapist about it, she agrees that he is going through something.
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