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i just dont know anymore....

Ive been with So for 6 years but im starting to feel that i am falling out of love with him. I love him so much but we fight all the time, he smokes pot and i hate it but he guilt trips me into telling him whatever do what you want cause i know he will anyway. We rarely have sex anymore, and sometimes we get in the smallest arguments and it takes everything inside me to flip out and tell him i hate him and i want out. The problem is ive been a sahm for the past year therefore i have NO money, no where to lilve. I plan on going back to school in the fall so i know i can leave then but i dont know what to do in the meantime? is it sad i want him to like kick me out cause last time i said i was leaving he started crying and said hed kill himself if i took DD form him (i would never keep her from him unless i felt she was in danger) please give some advice...

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Asked by Anonymous at 4:17 PM on Apr. 18, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Sounds like a pretty rough spot to be in. The only advice i can give you is keep your head up and be strong. Be patient. Try talking to him, and if that doesnt work then talk to family/friends to see if some time apart would help....

    Answer by trystons_mommy at 4:22 PM on Apr. 18, 2009

  • Move back with your parents or siblings for help. Go to court for child support and visitation arrangements. Get on your feet and you'll be fine.
    You know what he is, he knows what you are. Doesn't sound like either is going to change. Either learn to like what the other is all about or leave. And if he did change to please you, would you really respect him for that? Probably not, because he wouldn't be doing it for his own reasons of knowing it's right, he'd be cowing down to someone elses wants.

    Answer by EireLass at 4:24 PM on Apr. 18, 2009

  • its normal to feel that you're falling out of love with him after so long; do you want things to work out? if so i suggest couples counseling, my SO and I tried it out and oddly enough it worked ( we both went in it with open minds and BOTH did the little excercises) If you really truly want things to be over start looking for a job right now, move back in with your parents and save money so you can get a car and your own place to live but make sure you truly dont want things to work out its sad that you're giving up just after six years, how do you think people have stayed married or together for over 50 years? they didnt just give up because there was no spark in the relationship anymore, it takes work and one thing you need to consider is if you will be able to find someone even better (who treats you good, in it for the long run not just a piece of ass etc.)

    Answer by Breezy1988 at 5:20 PM on Apr. 18, 2009

  • Don't wait until fall to go back to school. Start in summer and use some of the student loan money to get a place to live. (it's allowed to use it for living expenses while you are a student). Tell him you are not taking her from him, just moving out. he can watch her while you study or take classes. You both can work this out so everyone is happy

    Answer by admckenzie at 7:01 PM on Apr. 18, 2009

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