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How do you make friends?

I feel like I'm 8 years olds old again, with pig tails and buck teeth, living in a new town, and wondering how to make friends. I feel like I have people all around me, old school pals, neighbors...and I always hint to them that I would love to do some thing some time...go for a walk, go shopping...and they say "yeah that would be great!" then..nothing ever happens...or I find out later that a group of neighbors got together for lunch, and no one thought to invite me...I feel like I'm that little left out girl all over again. Any advice?

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nataj

Asked by nataj at 9:10 PM on Apr. 18, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Ask some people to your home and have a lunch in. Let these people get to know you.. Where do you live i will come have lunch with you.( no really im kidding) Get yourself out there..GL
    raemommy

    Answer by raemommy at 9:23 PM on Apr. 18, 2009

  • my sister and adult daughters and I talk about this all the time. We live in a military community and about the time you get to befriend someone they get transferred out! Now that my kids are moving away I feel like a little lost pup. I know people here but are not really friends with them to feel comfy with going out or just hanging out. So this is a good question.
    Have you seen the movie, I love you Man! I wasn't going to watch it thinking it might be dumb but this is what it is about, finding a friend when you realize you have none and how he goes about finding friends.
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 9:32 PM on Apr. 18, 2009

  • Invite neighbors over for lunch to get to know them. Take the first move. You can also make friends by joining a playgroup, take kids to storyhour at the library, talk to other parents at the park. Look on CM for a group that is in your area or start one yourself. Put yourself out there, join a book group.
    tyfry7496

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 10:18 PM on Apr. 18, 2009

  • people can be so wishy-washy. It is hard to make friends! You may have to be more direct and invite them to something specific.
    stamm

    Answer by stamm at 10:40 PM on Apr. 18, 2009

  • I like all your thoughts. I guess I need to take the initiative and make something happen, rather than sit around and hope for things to happen. Here's my little girl insecurity though: What if I invite people to do something, and they do...then later I find out that all those people continue to do things without inviting me back...it's happened before. I had two neighbors, and I usually headed up any activities we would do. I told them one day at the park, that we should get together with the kids and our computers and teach each other digital scrabooking. They both said that was a great idea. Then I found out that the very next day, the two of them got together w/o me. I was so hurt. I guess I just don't like putting myself out there.


    Thanks for all your thoughts and advice. keep it coming!

    nataj

    Answer by nataj at 12:17 PM on Apr. 20, 2009

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