My daughter is one of those kids that likes to interact with others and at soccer practice she gave a hug to a new child.
This new child then shoved my daughter hard enough to make her neck snap back. The mother did nothing, but watch. She didn't intervene until her child started following mine around yelling instructions at her! Then, all she said was, "you aren't the coach!"
I understand that 3-4yr olds will sometimes be physical, but I cannot understand a parent who does not reprimand her child in that kind of a situation. My child then didn't want to be there anymore and I had to explain that there are children who do not like to be touched and that can be mean. I was so mad about the mother of the other child!
When my child does anything mean to another child and I see it, I take the time to call her out on it right then. It becomes a learning opportunity for proper behavior for my child.
Asked by Anonymous at 9:57 PM on Apr. 19, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)
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Answer by Anonymous at 12:28 AM on Apr. 20, 2009
For me, this is harder than it seems at the first take. See our first reaction is to want to punch the other kid :) After all, how dare they not see how wonderful our kids are.
What I try to do is two things: 1. Use these situations to teach my son what he can do to stand up for himself. Because in the real world, even in the office or anywhere there will always be bullies. I won't be there to show him how to protect himself. Kids need to lean early healthy ways to assert themselves, for example " hey, you have no right to push me/ touch me/ take my toy."
2. If this doesn't work, I have no problem stepping in and saying to the other child, "Hey, I'm sorry but you can't push him." Kids are usually so shocked to have been told by an adult who isn't there parent they will stop right away. If the other parent has a problem, I just let them know that I can't tolerate physical attacks and that's how it is.
Answer by dreyamom at 12:34 AM on Apr. 20, 2009