I was just wondering how many couples out there went through pre-marital counseling, whether it was required or by choice, and whether or not you found it beneficial. TY
DF & I are going through ours currently, we're tyin the knot in September, and it is required in the church we're getting married in. We both really enjoy it and find it VERY helpful with our relationship. We don't have to take "compatiblity" tests, they're not there to tell us whether or not we're compatible, but the tests help you understand more how each person communicates, how they solve problems, what kind of background they come from and how it may affect those things, etc.
I will also add that we've been together 4 1/2y, 5 y by the wedding date (we have a 5mo old son), and we both still find it very helpful. We both believe that relationships need contsant effort and constant work, and no relationship is perfect and in no need of work or effort.
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Answer by theheartbaby at 12:48 PM on Apr. 20, 2009
We went through it and loved it. Not only was it beneficial for our marriage, but it also put us in the right state of mind going into the marriage. With all the stress of planning a wedding, it was nice to sit down and just talk about our relationship and what marriage would mean for us. It was also comic relief since we ended up laughing a lot during the counseling. And another positive aspect was through counseling we got to know the pastor pretty well and felt very comfortable with him once the wedding came around.
Answer by KelleyP77 at 12:54 PM on Apr. 20, 2009
Never heard of it. I was married in a church and it wasn't required.
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