Why don't men have to change?
It seems its very natural for women to change when we have a baby but why isn't it the same for men? Beyond the chemical, hormonal changes. Why is it automatic that WE make the lunch, put them to bed, bath them, while they just live as before we had the child together? I am running into many times with my husband where things are just ended up where I take on everything. I know we need a talk about it, but I want to know just how common this is and what helps or when does it get better?
Answer by Mrs.Phillips007 at 6:04 PM on Apr. 20, 2009
Answer by prettyrayray at 2:37 PM on Apr. 20, 2009
Answer by Cavalrybaby02 at 2:40 PM on Apr. 20, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 2:42 PM on Apr. 20, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 2:43 PM on Apr. 20, 2009
You married a child or maybe you are making it hard for him to help. I know many men who don't do anything at home because when they do they are nagged about how they did it wrong. I used to do this to my husband and he shut down after a while and did nothing. I got so angry he would not help and finally we had a blowout. He told me he wants to help and be a part of everything but when he does something why does it have to always be my way. I had no idea he felt that way. I backed off and when my son was 6 months old he was changing diapers, cleaning, giving baths and helping like he did before we had our child.
I know many women who are just as lazy as many men. Their spouses work all day then come home to clean the entire house, do all the laundry and care for the kids. Men do not corner the market on being jerks. Talk to your spouse and stop nagging.
Answer by Anonymous at 2:44 PM on Apr. 20, 2009
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Answer by samurai_chica at 2:53 PM on Apr. 20, 2009