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Issues with daycare provider over thumb sucking...

my daycare provider wants my 13 month old to stop sucking her thumb, I don't care that she does. How should I approach the issue?

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Asked by awilsonmom at 2:36 PM on Apr. 20, 2009 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • I think it is not your day care providers business and if she keeps insisting, I'd find a new provider.

    Answer by NorahSethsMommy at 2:38 PM on Apr. 20, 2009

  • Tell them to take his tumb away :) Seriously, nothing they can do. Just ignore them. If they give you a hassle, looks for a different center.

    Answer by ferdo0204 at 2:39 PM on Apr. 20, 2009

  • I agree with the above. It's just something some babies do and I think they have more important things to worry about than who is sucking their thumb or not.


    Answer by Anonymous at 2:41 PM on Apr. 20, 2009

  • I would tell them it's not really their place to be telling YOU what YOUR child can and can't be doing. It's not hurting another child, its the same as if a 13 month old had a binky, or a 18 month old with a bottle, or even a 3 year old with a security blanket he/she carries ALL the time. It's not different. Tell them to drop it and leave it be, or find a new center =]

    Answer by mommykayti at 2:41 PM on Apr. 20, 2009

  • First, how often does she mention this? Is it every day or one time? You may be blowing it up. Just say, I don't care if he does it or not and just let him do it.....period. If she doesn't stop, then find another provider

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:42 PM on Apr. 20, 2009

  • Just tell them that her thumb sucking is a parenting decision that you will be having the final say on. She is your child and it is up to you if you want her to stop thumb sucking or not. But I would ask why they are so concerned with it. They may have noticed it interfering with some developmental issue that you may not have seen yet. Find out their concerns and make an educated decision about it.

    Answer by canadianmom1974 at 2:43 PM on Apr. 20, 2009

  • I know it is none of the day cares business and it is your child but I would think that you would want the best for your little one. Sucking on the thumb pacifiers ect. can cause MAJOR mouth deformities. Such as Buck teeth, narrowing of the pallet spacing issues and other major issues. Maybe you should look at it from that point of view instead of thinking they are trying to insult you!


    Answer by Anonymous at 2:45 PM on Apr. 20, 2009

  • This is a parents' decision, not the daycare provider's.

    Answer by TiffaniR at 2:46 PM on Apr. 20, 2009

  • anon 245 it does not unless they are over 3 and it's very rare.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:50 PM on Apr. 20, 2009

  • Yep yep...none of their business. I wouldnt care either and its not like you can cut it off...LOL Just tell them to leave her alone.

    Answer by momofsaee at 3:05 PM on Apr. 20, 2009

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