hi! im new to CM. and i am about to have my baby girl on thursday (induced). This is my first child and im really protective already. I know that i have to let other people hold her, but i have a feeling that i am going to be reallly pissed off if they walk up to me and demand "gimme gimme gimme!"
i guess i should explain. my boyfriend's family is really rude. They have just been aweful to me during this pregnancy because we aren't married. i've been ask by his sisters "how is MY baby" (haha.. its not yours you didnt carry it is what i want to say back) and "are you really suppose to get that fat when your preg?" ive been referred to as "that girl daniel knocked up" and my sonogram was described as a "skunks face" bc it was black and white and hard to see. I have even been told that all babies are ugly and mine's no exception.
basically, how do i get over my hate for them their rudeness and let them hold their grandD/neice?
Answer by Quintensmom at 3:38 PM on Apr. 21, 2009
Answer by vicki136 at 3:39 PM on Apr. 21, 2009
Answer by maxsmom11807 at 3:39 PM on Apr. 21, 2009
oooooo! I hated MIL holding my baby. I was like a pit bull w/ her puppies. It's normal to feel protective of your baby. You can tell your Dr. that you don't want any visitors, regardless if they are your baby's father's family, they have to respect that. That's what i did. You don't want to see people that don't respect you after the trauma of giving birth, trust me. They can wait to hole him/her when daddy has his time with the baby. Really, consider asking the Dr.'s nurses that you only want so & so in the room, & that the others make you feel uncomfortable. They have to comply w/ the patient.
Answer by samurai_chica at 3:39 PM on Apr. 21, 2009
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Answer by Gypsy98 at 3:41 PM on Apr. 21, 2009
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Answer by mommykayti at 3:43 PM on Apr. 21, 2009
the GREAT thing about being the mommy is that if you dont want them to hold her you dont have to! you can even tell the hospital people you dont want any of them in your room! dont play dirty but stand firm! if they are not going to respect you then F**K them! thats what i say! and if they ask why you didnt let them see her just say because i didnt want anyone telling me how ugly my baby is! im happy to have her i think she is perfect and im not going to let ANYONE spoil my time with connecting with MY baby! GOOD LUCK!!
Answer by woobie102 at 3:44 PM on Apr. 21, 2009
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