Why is it that when a man goes out to work, it's what he's "supposed" to do, but when a mother goes out to work, she's considered a "bad mother"? Since when does the responsibilities of parenting fall solely on the mother's shoulders?
Mothers take on at least 90% of the caring of the child. whether or not she's working. Mothers are expected to change th dirty diapers, feed the baby (if they are exclusively breast feeding), do the laundry, clean the house, plan menus and cook meals, wipe runny noses, put the kids to bed, etc. Men help out some, but they don't do anywhere near the amount of work the mother does.
She can't get tired, or discouraged, or frustrated, because that would make her a "bad mother".
If she decides to take her child to McD's for dinner, just so she can have a break from cooking, then she's a "lazy mother". And on and on and on...
Why do we put so much pressure on mothers?
Asked by Anonymous at 8:43 PM on Apr. 21, 2009 in General Parenting
Answer by BJoan at 9:56 AM on Apr. 22, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 8:44 PM on Apr. 21, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 8:45 PM on Apr. 21, 2009
Answer by aliciatron at 8:51 PM on Apr. 21, 2009
Answer by jeanclaudia at 9:47 PM on Apr. 21, 2009
I understand that some single moms have to work to provide for themselves and their children. However, I have a problem with women who have kids knowing that they are gonna go right back to work because they think they can do it all, and they feel that having all the material things is more important than staying home and putting their kids first. If you're gonna have kids just to dump them off in daycare all day so you can work to have a higher standard of living, or to afford the finer things in life, why bother having kids? If you're gonna have kids, stay home and raise them, don't dump them off on someone else to raise.
My heart breaks for those children who were raised in a daycare center or by someone other than their parent, because their parents were too selfish to sacrifice a few years of their life to be with their kids.
Answer by Anonymous at 9:56 PM on Apr. 21, 2009
Answer by tyfry7496 at 10:22 PM on Apr. 21, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 10:46 PM on Apr. 21, 2009
Answered at 10:22 PM on Apr. 21, 2009 by: tyfry7496
WOW, I must be a horrible mom...
I don't think you're a horrible mom... I was talking about women who's husbands make plenty of money to support their family, but they opt for the mom to work just so they can afford more material things, nicer cars, bigger home etc. I feel for single moms who have to work and don't have the choice to stay home and raise their kids.
However, so many moms are single because they were having sex when they aren't in a stable married relationship and because of that, the children are the ones who suffer.
Answer by Anonymous at 10:55 PM on Apr. 21, 2009
Answer by Fallaya at 11:07 PM on Apr. 21, 2009
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