It takes two people to fight. So, just prepare yourself for the fact that she will likely try to pick a fight and then choose not to participate. If she yells, let her yell. Maybe you are the only person at whom she can yell and not get smacked. Maybe you are the only person with whom she feels safe enough to say how she really feels. Maybe you are her therapy. It's only a visit, so you know it's not going to last forever. If she criticizes you, here's a good line. "Well, thank you very much for telling me that about myself. I will think about it and try to make the needed changes. Is there anything else you could tell me that might help me?" That usually shuts people up.
at 9:18 AM on Apr. 22, 2009