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How do i deal with my 13 year old girl taking suggestive pictures of herself?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 9:27 AM on Apr. 22, 2009 in Teens (13-17)

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  • how is she taken them? cell phone take it away if she needs to have it xchange it for a phone that dosent take pics. ( i had one from t mobil and no camra ) id its a web thing take it away. or scrare her stright show her news clips of sexy girls that were hurt or worse due to the fact that they atracted the wrong attention.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:31 AM on Apr. 22, 2009

  • This must be so hard for you! Girls these days grow up so fast that they don't learn to respect themselves. Between peer pressure, and what they see on tv, they all think that is how their valued. Be open with her and tell her she needs to respect herself. She should want people to like her for who she is not what she looks like. Tell her she is way to young to be that suggestive. If that does'nt work take away her phone, camera or whatever shes using until she respects your wishes and herself. good luck.
    DIANE463

    Answer by DIANE463 at 9:35 AM on Apr. 22, 2009

  • Take away her cell phone, her computer, her camera, her USB cable, her fax, her ipod, and anything else that she can use to do this. At this point, you protect her from herself. Talking is fine but follow up with action to keep her from doing this.
    momofsaee

    Answer by momofsaee at 10:11 AM on Apr. 22, 2009

  • I agree with the other moms. She also needs to know that she is more than a "sexy" picture, let her know she is "advertising" herself, and portraying herself in a bad, BAD way. Any of her talents, sports or hobbies, get her more involved in. If she's not doing anything, find something. She needs to establish self worth. Let her know she has better things to offer the world, than this. I'm sorry you are going through this. Best wishes to ya'll.
    MrsBLB

    Answer by MrsBLB at 1:00 PM on Apr. 22, 2009

  • Tell her that if sends the pics to anyone, she can be charged with child pornography and her life will be ruined. Take away anything that she can take a pic with or share the pics with others with.
    tyfry7496

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 2:39 PM on Apr. 22, 2009

  • Are you kidding me??? Take away every device she has that can take pictures, ground her, let her know in no uncertain terms that this behaviour is unacceptable. Who are her friends anyway? Do they all engage in this? If you don't stop this now it will only get worse and she will ruin her reputation by the time she gets to high school.
    jewelrylady1

    Answer by jewelrylady1 at 2:55 PM on Apr. 22, 2009

  • I believe that you need to take away every device, friend, and opportunity! No joke. That is serious stuff with serious consequences. Take away computer, camera, cell phone, and anything else that she can do it with or that makes her think that should be acceptable. If her friends at school are part of the influence toward this then pull her out and homeschool awhile. Let her know that until she can make acceptable choices for herself, you will be making all decisions for her. I would attach our belt loops together if necessary before she had another opportunity to engage in anything of the such. Parenting isn't always fun, but the rewards for doing it well are awesome! Go for it!
    mommy9

    Answer by mommy9 at 3:06 PM on Apr. 22, 2009

  • tell her if she's sends them it's illegal. And you'' make sure their are charges involved. Then take her phone away.
    pagirl71

    Answer by pagirl71 at 3:33 PM on Apr. 22, 2009

  • As jewelrylady said
    "Are you kidding me??? Take away every device she has that can take pictures, ground her, let her know in no uncertain terms that this behaviour is unacceptable. Who are her friends anyway? Do they all engage in this? If you don't stop this now it will only get worse and she will ruin her reputation by the time she gets to high school." Kids are commiting suicide for pictures of them going around school, she needs to know that it is not okay. Have you asked her why? Is she taking them for someone else? If so who? and Why? Then no longer allow her to see that person or speak to that person until she has shown she can be trusted.

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    Vanessannd

    Answer by Vanessannd at 3:40 PM on Apr. 22, 2009

  • Take away anything that can take pictures. You as a parent need to find out why she needs to do this. She may not love herself the way she is and needs approval that she is sexy to feel loved. Many teen girls and young women do not have high self esteems and need to become provactive just to make themselves feel better. Society as a whole has put so much pressure on the female gender to be perfect bodied and sexy bodied. It doesn't help that there is so much sex appeal on tv even in commericals now a days. So have a talk with your daughter when you both are calm and let her know you are there for her . She needs to know she is safe in her own home and with her mom and dad ( if dad is not in the picture that would explain alot)

    hope this helps!
    Shaneagle777

    Answer by Shaneagle777 at 7:10 PM on Apr. 22, 2009

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