my dh's family seems SO controlling about everything. and now that dd has arrived they keep telling us what's REALLY ok to give her and who we need to take her to see. dh is a surprisingly good judge of character. so i trust his instinct when he tells me there're some people in his family, that are just messed up and our dd would be better off not meeting them. is this wrong of us? choosing who gets to see our daughter? last time we went to visit some of his family, his aunt kept pushing him, telling him "you NEED to take dd to see her! don't be like them, (saying dh's name in a tone), you're better than that" too me that's manipulation. it's like she's trying to be nice, but forcing herself on us. but i could be wrong. and another thing, all they eat is McD's. they were telling us we SHOULD give dd french fries. there's nothing wrong with it. but i don't want her eating "junk" just yet. they said i was being over protective.
Asked by Anonymous at 2:32 PM on Apr. 22, 2009 in General Parenting
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Answer by lstrickland at 4:58 PM on Apr. 22, 2009
Have an uncomfortable conversation with them. It doesn't really matter if your being overprotective, your kids, your decisions. Your going to have to find a way to let them know. Example: " I feel really undermined as a parent when you tell me to ___________, lets agree that as the parent I make these decisions."
Answer by dreyamom at 5:10 PM on Apr. 22, 2009