So some kids, probably about 4 slapped my 21 mo old today at the park. This kids was twice her size. She is tiny, tall, but very selder... the kind of kid that you think you might break if you hug to hard.
I was pissed, the mom comes over gets down looks at her son and says "that was not nice, say your sorry", he says sorry and runs off playing, she looks at me and says "sorry, boys, you know"... I said.. "no I don't, I have two older boys who have never assulted another child, and if they would have, I would have beat their butts for it"... she says "oh, well.. I don't beleive in spanking.. the only thing it teaches is that if you are bigger you can hit."
ARe you joking??? My kids will and have been spanked, and they have never even threatened to hit another kid!! this is the third time my kids have been hurt by a "NON spanking" familes kids. Humans don't need to be taught to hit, its instinct, but they do....
Answer by daughteroftruth at 4:41 PM on Apr. 22, 2009
well, if you do some research on spanking, studies show that it does nothing positive for kids. It does everything negative. But that's just what studies show....they have also kept on w/ certain studies until adulthood to see what kind of long term effect spanking has on kids. Kids who are spanked tend to have a much less self image & self confidence than kids who are not spanked. It's all there on the Internet, you should search the studies...they are VERY interesting. I doubt that her kid hits because she doesn't spank. It probably has to do with the fact that she doesn't discipline well. I have never spanked my daughter, & i never ever would. She has never hit anyone & is a very respectful child, but i follow through with my discipline. Not all parents do, regardless of there disciplining techniques.
Answer by samurai_chica at 4:43 PM on Apr. 22, 2009
Answer by PROGENITOR at 4:44 PM on Apr. 22, 2009
Answer by ZaTa at 4:50 PM on Apr. 22, 2009
Answer by daughteroftruth at 4:52 PM on Apr. 22, 2009
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Answer by Babylove76 at 4:55 PM on Apr. 22, 2009
Answer by Babylove76 at 4:58 PM on Apr. 22, 2009
Well, i don't have the heart to harm my innocent child. IN MY OPINION, I think parents who spank are too lazy to discipline better & to take the time to really work with your child's behavior. My techniques works FANTASTIC without having to harm anyone. I was spanked quite a bit growing up & i have nothing but ill, negative memories about it & i would never do that to my child. Have fun spanking away......sure your kids love it. Sorry if i sound rude, but I'm sure you expected it w/ your post. Also, I'm not following any trend, I'm following my heart, & my instinct to protect my child. There have been hundreds of studies that prove spanking does nothing positive for children, never seen a PRO spanking study because there aren't any that can prove it's effectiveness. I also volunteer w/ less able children, so it's a sensitive subject for me. If you've ever counseled a child.....
Answer by samurai_chica at 5:00 PM on Apr. 22, 2009
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