How do you mean? It takes a woman's body 3 years to fully recover from childbirth, so in some ways it can be harder. My hormones didn't balance until my son was almost 3, so I was always really really emotional prior to my period for those first 3 years ... However in other ways it was better... my cramps went away completely and haven't returned yet (although I have heard the exact opposite from others)
Depends on if you have a boy or girl. I have two kids a 5 year old girl that was wonderful growing up. She listens. I also have a 3 year old boy who thinks he's his own boss. Boys seem to be a little harder to raise then girls. It all will work out.