Here's a thought. I know many people that believe that if you re-marry, God doesn't see your new marriage as valid, and only recognizes your first marriage. But what if you married the wrong person to begin with?
My DH was absolutely miserable in his first marriage. She was a drama queen, verbally abusive, a drug addict (we didn't find that out until recently) and eventually left him for another man.
I prayed for years for God to send me the one He wanted me to be with, and when I met DH I knew that this was the man God sent to me. We are truly in love, and happier than either of us have ever been in our lives. If God wouldn't recognize our marriage as valid, do you think that we would have this love and this happiness?
This is one reason I feel the Bible was not written by God. I respect what it has to say but I take it with a grain of salt.
If you are truly unhappy in your marriage and need to get out of it even without the "OK" reasons, then I know God would want you to be happy and enjoying life. People can RUIN their lives with the Bible;trying to figure out what is OK and what isn't. God intended this life to be a journey of love and life. MANY things hinder that and need to be changed. Marriage is just one of many. For me, the song Bless The Broken Road by Rascal Flats sums it up nicely for me. Everything (even the negative) eventually leads to the correct path. Sometimes with the Bible, sometimes not but I think the important thing to remember is to much emphasis on something can usually cloud the real meaning. ( I wasn't referring to anyone specific BTW)
Answer by hannahwill at 2:36 PM on Apr. 23, 2009
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Answer by Kiter at 1:40 PM on Apr. 23, 2009
Answer by Ati_13 at 1:42 PM on Apr. 23, 2009
It was always my understanding that adultery is the "get of jail free card" when it comes to Christian marriage; so, in that regard, I feel that makes this marriage "count' according to God. But, in all honesty I don't think your happiness is dependant on or inherently the result of God's approval of it. Not saying God didn't answer your prayer, just that even if he didn't your relationship is good regardless. Also, I personally believe God would be ecstatic that you have a wonderful relationship, but that's just me.
Answer by BubbaLuva at 1:49 PM on Apr. 23, 2009
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Answer by teamquinn at 1:51 PM on Apr. 23, 2009
Divorce is only permissible in God's eyes if there is unfaithfulness involved. Other wise as it explains in the Bible it is impossible to divorce because when a man and a woman marry they become one. If they divorce without adultery being their reasons then they both commit adultery even if they remarry to someone else right afterwards. If they do not remarry, they not only commit adultery, but anyone who sleeps or lusts after them is also committing adultery.
Since we know adultery is a sin, we know that God will forgive it as long as you repent, and have Jesus in your heart.
Answer by mo2a27 at 2:02 PM on Apr. 23, 2009
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Answer by cheeky927 at 2:14 PM on Apr. 23, 2009
Next question overall
Would you go to a wedding if you did not support the marriage?