My husband and I have his 2 boys split during the week with his ex-wife. We are getting ready to have them full time during the week and her have them every weekend. My husband works in the evenings until the next morning and for the past 4 weeks in a row the boys mother will call me asking if they can stay at our house for whatever excuse she comes up with. I have been saying yes, because they are my husbands sons, but when she says she's sick and can't watch them and then I find pictures posted on Myspace of her going out to the bar and partying I said "no" to the last time she asked. Am I in the wrong? I feel like she is always pawning her children off not just during the week, but even when it's her weekend. I do not have kids of my own and Cherish my alone time, but my husband doesn't understand. He's not even there when I have the boys most of the time. Just need some advise.Answer Question
Answer by VeronicaLee at 3:09 PM on Apr. 23, 2009
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Answer by sparkie102 at 4:30 PM on Apr. 23, 2009
to the Anon posters that ASSUME and make an A$$ outta themselves.... bite me! Show your face, or shut up! Yeah, I said it!
To OP: As a single full time mom myself, I still think you have every right to some "me" time of your own.... don't feel bad for a second for feeling like you don't want to take them EVERY SINGLE time she calls.... You at the moment are at her Beck-N-Call (sp?). You don't have to say "how high?" every time she says "jump!" You can still love your Step-kids and not be walked all over by maternal mom. Just don't tell anyone that you are blowing her off.... just act all inocent about "not being available" sometimes.
Answer by VeronicaLee at 4:39 PM on Apr. 23, 2009
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