Growing up my dad would hit us. And I don't mean spankings(though he'd do that too.) But I mean he used to actually hit us in the face and on the head when we were little. Now, it wasn't often. It was just whenever he got frustrated with us. And when he wasn't frustrated we'd all get along fine.
Now that we're all moved out, he has hit my mom once(as far as I know.) and has thrown soda in her face. He has also physically pulled me down the stairs at one point. So my question is, even though he's not continuosly hitting and abusing, is he considered a threat? Is telling my mom to leave him the right thing to do even though he hasn't hit her in a while and it's only been that one time? Is one time enough?
Answer by admckenzie at 6:32 PM on Apr. 23, 2009
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Answer by Ash9724 at 6:37 PM on Apr. 23, 2009
Answer by Zaphira at 6:37 PM on Apr. 23, 2009
My dad is very sick. He's taking...I don't know how many different medications. And he has been abusive, emotionally to my mom. He neglects her, controls her, even puts her down. No one, not even my brothers, like being around him. He is a very difficult person to get along with. I personally would be happy if my mom divorced him. That sounds bad, I know, but when you know things could be better you want it to be better.
Answer by Imogine at 6:41 PM on Apr. 23, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 6:44 PM on Apr. 23, 2009
No matter how sporadic, abuse should never be tollerated (now, I'm not bashing because each person has to sort these things out on thier own & people can only make moves when they're ready, but we all know abuse is bad). That said, I believe one time is more than enough, but again a lot of things should be considered (does the abuser enter treatment, does the abused person need to time situate things to be able t leave, etc). I don't ever think though that it's the childs place to advise a parent. Obviously and naturally, you want to protect your mom, but this is something she needs to do on her own. And I hate to say it but, I agree that if your mom didn't leave when your dad was abusing you, I think it's far less likely that she will leave now. Hopefully, she will realize she deserves better, soon.
Answer by BubbaLuva at 6:52 PM on Apr. 23, 2009
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Answer by Imogine at 6:56 PM on Apr. 23, 2009
Answer by Lizamafers at 7:53 PM on Apr. 23, 2009