My husband and I each brought children into our marriage. He had a Vasec. & doesn't want more kids. I knew this entering into the marriage and felt sad but knew I loved him more than I wanted another child. Now I feel so cheated out of the bond I want to have with him, out of experiencing a wanted and planned child that would be with someone I love so much. It stings to know that he had a child with his ex despite his better judgement (he lives w us) and how he has cried when he told me it was the one thing he couldn't bring himself to give to me.
I try to rationalize it to myself that we don't have room, we are in our 30s, a vasec. reversal is so expensive etc. But the desire is still burning and I dream about what our child would look like or grow up to be one day. I dream of holding this phantom baby, his baby, in my arms only to wake up feeling depressed and empty. I dont understand why since I have 2 kids already. HELP!
Asked by Anonymous at 8:28 PM on Apr. 23, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by alinker at 8:41 PM on Apr. 23, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 9:03 PM on Apr. 23, 2009
Answer by admckenzie at 9:47 PM on Apr. 23, 2009