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Would you let someone watch your child when you dont like the way the raise kids?

My MIL takes care of my DFs nephew, who will be 6, and with watching over the past 3yrs on how she takes care of him I get worried when she wants to watch my 10 month old dd. She lets my DFs nephew watch T.V. all day long and lets him do whatever he wants because she doesnt want him to get mad at her. I think it is because she is too lazy to set down the law. When she tells him to do something and he doesnt she will just sit there and let him continue doing it. She also lets him drink coffee, religiously EVERYDAY!!! Hes 6 did I mention!!! For easter she made my dd(10 months old) an easter basket. I gave her some suggestions on what to put in it, baby fruit sticks, yogurt melts, no candy, maybe some toys and she filled it with peanut butter filled chocolates (she is only 10 months and cannot have peanut butter, and I have told her a million times after I found out she gave her some peanut butter!)

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Asked by SabrenaLeigh at 3:15 PM on Apr. 24, 2009 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • (Cont) I tell her she cant have something or do something and she will question be about it a million times until I change the subject or leave! I want her to be apart of her life, but its making it very stressful and I am worried for my dd.

    Answer by SabrenaLeigh at 3:16 PM on Apr. 24, 2009

  • Nope. Never.

    Answer by EmilySusan at 3:16 PM on Apr. 24, 2009

  • would you let her watch your kids?

    Answer by SabrenaLeigh at 3:17 PM on Apr. 24, 2009

  • yikes i know I wouldnt feel comfortable having her watch my baby. sounds like you have told her numerous times about how you care for your baby and wish the same from her, but she wont listen. I have a friend who i used to be close with before I was preggo, but she was a whacko. way too militant towards her kid, smoked pot and drank in front of him and her friends kids, harshly disciplined her friends kids...I havent seen her in a long time but if she ever offers to watch my son I'll laugh in her face.

    Answer by Owl_Feather at 3:18 PM on Apr. 24, 2009

  • Heck no! Don't let her watch your kids. Anyone who watches your children is partially parenting them. Your children will learn right and wrong from them and will take on their good and bad habits.

    Answer by MamaChamp at 3:19 PM on Apr. 24, 2009

  • No way! I wouldn't let someone who openly goes against my wishes for my child have any interaction with my son if I wasn't there. I also wouldn't let someone watch my child when I didn't agree with the way they handled other children. Even if they promised to do things differently with mine, I wouldn't take the chance. Just because someone doesn't watch a child doesn't mean they aren't part of their life. It sounds like you need to keep this woman from having any time with the child when you aren't there to monitor things!


    Answer by DDry at 3:19 PM on Apr. 24, 2009

  • If I didn't like the way someone took care of other kids, It's doubtful I would let them take care of mine. The only way would be if I really thought she would respect MY rules with MY child, and if the things I didn't like were not a very big deal. But sorry, it sounds like she's proven otherwise.

    Answer by EmilySusan at 3:19 PM on Apr. 24, 2009

  • Look, follow your gut instinct. Your MIL seems to have a problem respecting your wishes when it comes down to your child, so absolutely No,

    Personally, I wouldn't let her anywhere near my child simply based on the peanut incident, she could have killed her you know? And then what? Opps? Like I said, follow your gut instinct and don't worry about keeping pace with MIL, your child's safety is far more important. An infant needs constant supervision and care, if as you said she is lazy, why risk it?

    Answer by bebita at 3:21 PM on Apr. 24, 2009

  • that would be a HELL NO!!!

    Answer by mamakat21 at 3:21 PM on Apr. 24, 2009

  • i wouldnt let her watch my kids. if she wont listen then she cant babysit.

    Answer by mommykayti at 3:25 PM on Apr. 24, 2009

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