If you don't help them learn, they will have problems as they grow up. Schools expect children to learn leadership skills. My son told me the other day that he finds it hard when he is put in the position of leader in a school activity - that shows that he is being expected to learn this and it showed me I need to work on this with him.
If you don't know how to help your child, there are some useful parenting books, which will address this issue, along with many others. I have a couple of good ones (by Steve Biddulph, Dr. Christopher Green, also John Gray) - it's obviously time I started reading again!
at 6:22 AM on Apr. 30, 2009