My DD is 18 in a couple of weeks and going to college locally (boarding) in the fall. She's a fairly responsible kid who doesn't get into trouble, but I fear the "I'm 18; I'm an adult and can do what I want" coming out.
If you have an 18 yo still at home, what do you require of him/her?
Answer by Bmat at 4:31 PM on Apr. 25, 2009
I'm only 26. So no, I don't have an 18 year old. But my mom had a rule in her house when my siblings and I still lived at home. If we lived in her house, we had to follow her rules. If we couldn't follow the rules, we couldn't live there. Of course, it was nothing major, like when we were kids...but you know...no drinking or drugs, no parties, no coming home in the middle of the night (home by midnight usually), stuff like that. Mostly just respect stuff.
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Answer by LoriW at 7:15 PM on Apr. 25, 2009
Our house rulesÂ are based on each kid's behavior as opposed to their age. But we have a few hard and fast rules that they knew before they ever turned 18. You must have a job. You may not lay on your butt and eat my food, or consume my electricity etc.. You will either have a part time job while you're in school or you will work full time. You must call or text your mom every 24 hrs to let her know you're okay. You do not have to come home, but you do have to pay 1/4 of the cleaning woman's bill, or move out. You may not own a motorcycle, or anything like it, and live at home. These are not all the rules but, it boils down to; you must begin growing into a responsible individual to remain at home. As long as you do that, you have a home. Also; every kid has one "move back". You have to leave because you won't act right; as soon as you figure it out, you can move home!
Answer by peachqpti at 8:55 PM on Apr. 25, 2009
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Answer by Anonymous at 11:04 PM on Apr. 26, 2009
If she is basically a "good" girl, then she probably already shows respect. I'm bet she calls when she will be late, lets you know where she is going, and does most chores to a reasonable degree of satisfaction. Don't create problems where they don't exist. Sit down and have a discussion. It reallly helps to let her know that you are going to treat her as a young adult and here are the guidelines for being one in our house. I doubt things will change much.
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