Leave him alone: more than one man needs a few months for the idea to really catch hold. There's a great book about expectant fatherhood, and also a great pregnancy guide that covers men, too: From Here to Maternity. It's not right to expect him to jump in and be enthusiastic right away - he can't tell, can't see, can't feel. If he's willing to come to appointments and ultrasounds, that's a good first step. From there, you can give him space and know - he will pick it all up faster than you will believe (and the baby will survive any little oopsies in the meantime.) Try NOT to be the "gate" between him and the baby: a lot of women try to manage their men's fatherhood experience, and it's not worth the stress. So he doesn't do it your way (or right away.) It doesn't mean he isn't willing to commit to fatherhood. My husband had changed diapers before we had our first, but we learned a *lot* about babies together.
at 12:27 AM on Apr. 27, 2009