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how do i make my man more comfortable with becoming a first time dad?

how do i make my man more comfortable with becoming a first time dad?

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3Morgan3

Asked by 3Morgan3 at 11:49 PM on Apr. 26, 2009 in Pregnancy

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  • Practice things with him...take classes together, get a baby doll and play pretend with diapering, burping and holding etc. Read books like What to Expect when Expecting. Boost his confidence that he will be a good daddy too
    Bugsmommy1908

    Answer by Bugsmommy1908 at 11:51 PM on Apr. 26, 2009

  • Get him to be and do things for the preparing everything for the baby, shopping,etc. maybe that will.
    Leilany1019

    Answer by Leilany1019 at 11:54 PM on Apr. 26, 2009

  • Leave him alone: more than one man needs a few months for the idea to really catch hold. There's a great book about expectant fatherhood, and also a great pregnancy guide that covers men, too: From Here to Maternity. It's not right to expect him to jump in and be enthusiastic right away - he can't tell, can't see, can't feel. If he's willing to come to appointments and ultrasounds, that's a good first step. From there, you can give him space and know - he will pick it all up faster than you will believe (and the baby will survive any little oopsies in the meantime.) Try NOT to be the "gate" between him and the baby: a lot of women try to manage their men's fatherhood experience, and it's not worth the stress. So he doesn't do it your way (or right away.) It doesn't mean he isn't willing to commit to fatherhood. My husband had changed diapers before we had our first, but we learned a *lot* about babies together.
    rainbowlight

    Answer by rainbowlight at 12:27 AM on Apr. 27, 2009

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