My BF often threatens to seek partial custody of our son when we fight (& I threaten to break up w/ him.) He thinks that if we break up, I'll try to keep his son from his, which isn't true at all. I'd be fair & let him visit whenever. The thing is that my mother & I pay for every expense for our son. Insurance, food, toys, diapers, etc. We have WIC using the address @ my BF's parents' from when we thought we'd be living there. (It's in a diff city & I haven't gotten it transferred yet. I don't even know if I can.) So if we break up, I don't know if he'd call the WIC office just to spite me. My BF doesn't have a job. He shares a dirty, gross, smokey room w/ a friend. They drink there & have band practice, so he doesn't even have a place he could keep our son even if he did seek joint custody. Nor could he afford to support our son. I'm afraid he'll ask his parents for help & make up lies about me. What should I do?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 7:57 PM on Apr. 27, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 7:59 PM on Apr. 27, 2009
First of all, you need to change the address for WIC like tomorrow. All those forms you filled out were legal documents and by not living at the address, it's fraud. Did he sign the birth certificate? If not, then he doesn't have any rights to the child at all. If he did, then you simply need to go to the court house and file for full legal and physical custody. If he wants visitation you can try to work something out or take it to court. Most of the time you don't need a lawyer for visitation cases. Also go to child support enforcement to get child support set up. If you don't want child support, then you won't be able to collect WIC or any other assistance for your son and yourself if he's name is on the birth certificate. If he does take you to court for custody then call your local legal aid office.
Answer by legalmommy101 at 8:06 PM on Apr. 27, 2009
Answer by admckenzie at 8:57 PM on Apr. 27, 2009
Answer by my2kids312 at 9:23 PM on Apr. 27, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 9:29 PM on Apr. 27, 2009
"My BF often threatens to seek partial custody of our son when we fight (& I threaten to break up w/ him.) He thinks that if we break up, I'll try to keep his son from his, which isn't true at all. I'd be fair & let him visit whenever."
If this is true, why would it bother you if he has joint custody? Each state is different, but where I live, the would automatically award joint custody with one parent the primary custodian. Since the child has been living with you, most likely you would be primary.
Fix the WIC, break up with him, and file for child support. Who cares if he gets joint custody? He is seeing the kid now, isn't he?
Answer by mancosmomma at 10:07 PM on Apr. 27, 2009
Answer by miss_nevin at 11:05 PM on Apr. 27, 2009
Answer by MizLee at 3:13 PM on Apr. 28, 2009