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How do you stop loving him?

After a two year relationship where he made you come alive and you taught him to love again? He decides to move on with his life without you,thats it. How do you stop loving him and stop dwelling on what you had together? easier said than done,so,please no smart ass comments. thanks

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Asked by Anonymous at 3:13 PM on Apr. 28, 2009 in Relationships

Answers (10)
  • You don't. You just start thinking about it less and less everyday that goes by. You get rid of the things in your life that remind you of him and just try to survive.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:17 PM on Apr. 28, 2009

  • sounds like he used you and it gets easier to think that he hurt you by leaving so forget his ass you can do better than him!

    Answer by tiffandgene2009 at 3:17 PM on Apr. 28, 2009

  • The old saying
    Time heals all Wounds...
    You will grow from your experience with him.
    Just remember not to forget your true self because he hurt you.
    Still give of yourself to others, even if you get hurt again.
    Tell yourself that you want to be with someone who truly wants to be with you.
    Good luck...keep your pretty head up

    Answer by Dannee at 3:21 PM on Apr. 28, 2009

  • Pick yourself back up and brush yourself off and i promise your heart will heal back again. Maybe he's going throw something in his life right now and you just need to give him he space DON'T call him if he wants to talk or see you he will call you. Broken hearts do heal it just takes time. I know it's easier said then done.GL

    Answer by raemommy at 3:22 PM on Apr. 28, 2009

  • You can love someone forever and never have to be with them or ever see them again.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:22 PM on Apr. 28, 2009

  • After a while you learn the subtle difference
    Between holding a hand and chaining a soul,

    And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning
    And company doesn't mean security,

    And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts
    And presents aren't promises

    And you begin to accept your defeats
    With your head up and your eyes open,

    With the grace of a woman,
    Not the grief of a child

    And you learn to build all your roads on today,
    Because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans
    and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.

    After awhile you learn that even sunshine
    Burns if you get too much

    So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul,
    In stead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers

    And you learn that you really can endure...
    That you really are strong
    And you really do have worth,

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:23 PM on Apr. 28, 2009

  • and you learn and learn...
    With every good bye you learn.
    Veronica Shoffstall 1971

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:24 PM on Apr. 28, 2009

  • You realize what you had with him was not real or would not be moving on. You move on and learn that love is not infatuation and chemistry. Love is being with someone through thick and thin and being there for the one you love.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:32 PM on Apr. 28, 2009

  • Be grateful that you learned something about yourself and are capable of loving. Recognize the relationship for what it was... no more, no less. If you try to live in the present, you will have a better chance of moving on.

    Answer by figaro8895 at 3:44 PM on Apr. 28, 2009

  • I had to go read the book How to Fall Out of Love. It's a paperback and was written just for this situation. It's never easy letting go but embrace what you had, learn from it but go read the book. It gives actual exercises to do to get over them and move on

    Answer by admckenzie at 4:23 PM on Apr. 28, 2009

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