Depends on what he is doing. I would talk to him about being disrespectful of others. When we irritate others, we are being selfish and rude. No one wants to be around people like that. I would also tell him that from now on, there would be dire consequences for such behavior. I would praise him for good behavior (we parents tend to forget to do that-- hugs are a great reward for good behavior, even for a 12 year old boy). I would take away privileges and toys for each time he starts to irritate anyone again. X-box, action figures, bat and ball, etc., would eventually all leave his room and end up in a storage shed in a box covered by heavy things. If he continues to be disrespectful, you can strip his room of everything except a mattress, blanket, and two pairs of clothes. Good behavior earns it back, one item at a time. Sounds extreme, I know, but it works. Start by being reasonable, if it doesn't work, go to the extreme.
at 4:50 PM on Apr. 29, 2009