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The best place to adopt from...

My husband and I are thinking about adopting a baby, once our youngest gets a bit older. Is there any country that is the best and easiest to adopt from?

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mcdorman01

Asked by mcdorman01 at 3:52 PM on May. 1, 2009 in Adoption

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  • China is easy for a girl but Russians blend in more, if that's a concern. Not sure about other countries. Russia has become more difficult.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:56 PM on May. 1, 2009

  • China is good for a girl, however if one of you is divorced, then you must wait 5 years before you can apply. Guatemala is closed and Vietnam has recently been hague accredited. Colombia is also good but they have specific guidelines. Most importantly when you are considering a country, make sure they are hague accredited or you have to abide by their laws as well as the U.S. laws. I have been researching this for the past year. Good luck.
    mrs.stepmom

    Answer by mrs.stepmom at 4:13 PM on May. 1, 2009

  • A good place to adopt from is foster care.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:44 PM on May. 1, 2009

  • Unless you are planning to adopt a special needs child, I would not apply to China right now. The wait is rediculously long (3+ years) and they tightened up their requirements last year. We were already in process and are thrilled with our daughter and the time we spent in China, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't start the process over again now with the way that program is.
    DEpley

    Answer by DEpley at 11:02 PM on May. 1, 2009

  • There are so many things that you need to think about before embarking upon an adoption journey. 1.) are you prepared for a child that has lived in an orphange or foster care
    2.) are you prepared to be a multi-cultural /multi-racial family
    3.) are you prepared to integrate that child's heritage into your lives
    4.) are you prepared for a long wait...

    Adopting domestically can range from $0-$$$...foster care is virtually nothing. Not all of the children are SN, yet there may be stipulations attached to some children, and not all kids are available for adoption from FC. Domestically there are far more prospective parents than newborns available..you must be matched with a first mom and that can take years or days.
    With international there is no good measurement.. you have to look at each country's guidelines/laws regarding IA. They all have different fees as well...some agencies may have differing fees as well. Continued..
    mcginnisc

    Answer by mcginnisc at 11:36 PM on May. 1, 2009

  • For instance..
    When we adopted our dd, the China fee was $5850, our agency fee was $3500, HS fee was $3000... another agency may charge $2000 for an agency fee and you may have to go to an independent agency for the Home study to be completed.
    The latest set of referrals that came from China were for log in dates of 3/2/06- 3/8/06... yep, 3 yrs and growing. If you were to begin an adoption from China right now for instance, your wait could reach up to 5-8 years for a NSN adoption. If you are open to SN, the wait is much shorter depending on whether your dossier has been received and gone through review or not.
    Also, you may recieve a referral for an infant and then not travel for a year depending on the country. Some countries like China classify infants as 0-2 yrs of age. We "requested" a child between those ages and were referred a 15.5 month old child. When we met her she was 17 months old. continued...
    mcginnisc

    Answer by mcginnisc at 11:41 PM on May. 1, 2009

  • stupid cut off....

    Our dd is 3.5 yrs old now and has been home for 2 years.
    Keep in mind that adoption is not all rainbows and flowers.... it is very heart wrenching on each side of the triad... first moms deal with the relinquishment and grief, the adoptee deals with grief, abandonment, attachment and bonding, and the a-parent deals with all of that as well... you need to begin researching adoptee grief, attachment and bonding asap. It is never too soon to begin researching adoption if it is an option for your family. It will be the most vital thing for you to do. GL!
    mcginnisc

    Answer by mcginnisc at 11:45 PM on May. 1, 2009

  • Korea is where international adopted began over 50 years ago after the Korean war left so many children without parents, or bi-racial in a racially homogeneous society (they would have been outcasts). They do not require international travel, and the children receive excellent medical care and are cared for in foster homes instead of orphanages, therefore the occurrence of attachment problems is reduced.

    There are waiting children that have very mild to moderate "special needs" and if you have prior parenting experience, it sounds like you would be wonderfully qualified to embark on such a special blessing.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:36 PM on May. 2, 2009

  • Foster care. Absolutely the best way to add to your family.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:19 PM on May. 2, 2009

  • It really depends on what your family needs and wants are.

    You need to ask yourselves..

    Do we want to adopt internationally? Can we afford to adopt internationally?
    Do we want to adopt domestically? If so, are we interested in a child in from the foster care system?
    Do we want a private, semi-open or open adoption?
    Do we want to go through an agency or an attorney?

    There are SO many questions to ask and figure out before you decide where and how to go about adopting. Even if you decide to go with international you need to research each country, their adoption process and limitations, and their cost or the type of domestic.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:10 PM on May. 2, 2009

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