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hopeless

tried everything should i give up it's just not working and we can't afford the dr visits at all.. anyone have any suggestions i'm not under stress we've tried the ovulation test and everything it's just not working.. we can't afford another one nor do we really have the room for another one but we both want one what can we do any secreats?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 10:14 PM on May. 1, 2009 in Trying to Conceive

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  • Not being ugly but if you can't afford another one you shouldn't have another one because it'll only cause martial problems been there done that. The stess over money and other stuff could be causing you not to conceive or maybe its god's way of telling you your not ready for another one yet. God has ways of doing things not to hurt you but to look out for you. I would give it some time it'll happen when you least expect it
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:43 PM on May. 1, 2009

  • Why would you want another one if you cannot afford it.?! It will not make you any less insecure or fix any problems in your relationship.
    It will only cause problems and not be good for the poor child. Think about the life you can give your child before you bring it in to the world.
    san-1

    Answer by san-1 at 10:57 PM on May. 1, 2009

  • I agree with the others. If you have stuff saved from your first it helps.. but still there's diapers, formula (unless you BF), doctors visits.. there's a chance it's the opposite sex (meaning you need all new clothes etc).. if you're not able to do these things and don't have support from family etc then why are you trying to set yourselves up for more struggles? I understand the want for another baby, but you have to be realistic. For instance.. if you really want a baby.. perhaps you could start a fund and just stop trying but stop trying to not get pregnant.. KWIM? Like put back $10 a week and just save it and then if you end up pregnant you can use it as a head start.It's not a lot but it will help you immensely when you can't afford it. If you don't end up needing it you can use it for a vacation or a really nice Christmas or something.

    s.teph

    Answer by s.teph at 7:55 AM on May. 2, 2009

  • You'll get pregnant when the time is right. Maybe this is the way of realizing that this is not the right time. What's the rush? Work on creating room for another child (physical and financial), and then you may find that you get pregnant soon thereafter.
    halfpint_ny

    Answer by halfpint_ny at 10:39 AM on May. 2, 2009

  • Don't have a baby that you know you can't afford simply because you want one. I want a great deal of things but know it's not feasible simply because we can't afford it.
    lilbit022009

    Answer by lilbit022009 at 12:21 PM on May. 2, 2009

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