Im so sore from this c section and I have no one to help out with the baby he is only 3 weeks old and my mom wont help because she say its my responsibility and she is upset with me because I got preg at such a young age with no father for the baby and she wonts nothing to do with the baby which is so onfair to the baby because he has nothing to do with what happened and he didnt ask to be here and she shouldnt take it out on him. He wont stop crying at night I get no sleep and im so tired I have been thinking about giving him up for adoption its just to much for a 16 year old to deal with...Im not backing out of anything i just think that he needs more and deserves more and deserves a mom and dad and need somebody ready for a child, what will u do?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 4:05 AM on May. 2, 2009 in Babies (0-12 months)
Answer by Bugsmommy1908 at 4:20 AM on May. 2, 2009
The soreness will go away.Honestly you're at one of the most difficult time periods right now..where they're so incredibly needy and they never sleep etc. All I can say is hold on, because it does get easier, but this is just par for the course. You can't have a child and skip the hard part. Eventually they get to be more fun, playful, and understand you more etc... not that they listen lol. I honestly think you'll regret giving her up.. but only you know your situation. Every first time mom thinks it's impossibly hard.. hell even veteran moms feel that way. It is do-able.Eventually your body adjust to getting less sleep, eventually baby sleeps more, is hungry less often, etc. It does get easier. I don't think your mom is punishing your baby, so much as she's trying to teach you a lesson.
Answer by s.teph at 4:36 AM on May. 2, 2009
I think you need to think about your priorities. You can either give the baby up, and continue being carefree and young.. doing whatever you like, possibly regretting it forever... or you can decide to grow up faster than the rest of the kids your age, and sacrafice yourself, your fun, and your life for a little while (You will always sacrifice to an extent for your child, but the worst is when they're babies).. and be rewarded with unconditional love and an overwhelming sense of fascination and love for your child. I can tell you that it does get better the older they get, and that every time they learn something new your sense of accomplishment is renewed... just think about it.. because you can't go back. You're talking about a permanent choice, and this child may not forgive you or want contact later.
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