The best way to "get revenge" is to obey the law, maintain yourself as a lady and always be the better person. Some might say Karma will do the job for you. If you're religious at all, remember, God promises "vengence is mine...I will repay."
I don't see it as being any healthy for the kids if the mom starts behaving as badly as the dad does and both of them go tit-for-tat. The more you let it get to you, the more you've allowed him to win. Not to mention, trying to get revenge means that now YOU'VE done something wrong. As irritating as he is to you, don't you at least feel a little better that you're in the right and he's not? Why ruin it now.
Again, remember the kids in this. He's their dad. Just because he's being awful to you does not mean they'll understand why you're being awful back. You need to set a good example and teach them to respect their elders/parents, even if he's not doing it.
at 12:41 PM on May. 2, 2009