Here's how to change the theme on your CafeMom page to the "I Love CafeMom" theme:
Mouseover the 'Home' tab.
Click on 'Colors & Styles' in the drop-down menu.
Click on the "Silly Themes" link on the left side of the page.
On that first page you should see the "I Love CafeMom" theme.
Click the "Apply" button.
Let us know if you need more help!
\The CafeMom Admin Team
at 7:28 AM on May. 3, 2009