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My 22 year old STINKS and is very very lazy!

My son is a bigger boy (5'11 280 lbs) and has a very bad personal hygiene problem. I buy him hygiene products, but have to bitch at him to shower.
His room is like a dump, with food and garbage and starts to stink up the house.

He's in university right now, but will be moving back soon, and I don't want a repeat of the way things were before.

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gothlingmom

Asked by gothlingmom at 6:58 PM on May. 2, 2009 in Adult Children (18+)

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  • Good luck, I have two boys who are messy with their room and sometimes hygene and I have to get on them too.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:59 PM on May. 2, 2009

  • What's the question?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:00 PM on May. 2, 2009

  • Maybe his room mate at university told him to cut the crap. If not, you can...again. Say it until he gets it right.
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 7:20 PM on May. 2, 2009

  • He's 22,he's an adult,not a child or a boy! He does this because you allow it! Tell him that he will have rules or he will get the hell out,simple as that. You cant blame him for trying to get away with things if you allow it. Change is good- President Obama
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:09 PM on May. 2, 2009

  • Buy your boy a bar of soap and a LOOFAH
    Twinkiesmom001

    Answer by Twinkiesmom001 at 12:14 AM on May. 3, 2009

  • Well as an adult you can only suggest to him about his hygiene. But, as he will be staying in your home, you can put your foot down. What happens in your house is up to you. YOu can either complain about it and do nothing or tell him right from the start what is expected and then stand by what you say. Good Luck.
    mistynights234

    Answer by mistynights234 at 9:51 PM on May. 3, 2009

  • If he's going to act like a child then treat him like a child. If he's going to live with you then he's going to follow the rules. Tell him he's fat, he stinks, and he's a slob. He's never going to find a good woman willing to marry him in his current state. Make him shower on a daily basis (tell him you'll help if necessary!) and clean his room. If he's leaving food around then tell him he's not allowed to have food in his room. He'll either buck up his idea or get out, either way you don't have to smell him anymore.
    RhondaVeggie

    Answer by RhondaVeggie at 11:34 AM on May. 4, 2009

  • I completely agree with "anonymous" - He's 22,he's an adult,not a child or a boy! He does this because you allow it! Tell him that he will have rules or he will get the hell out,simple as that. You cant blame him for trying to get away with things if you allow it. Change is good- President Obama
    Ginny19

    Answer by Ginny19 at 8:55 PM on May. 4, 2009

  • Buying a bar of soap does not get it!you must have no teenage boys!
    tclw

    Answer by tclw at 11:25 PM on May. 5, 2009

  • If he wants to act like a child then treat him like a child.
    Make house rules that state NO food allowed in bedrooms. NO drinks, except for water, allowed in bedrooms. Showers are mandatory at least every 2 days.
    If he doesn't like your rules, then tell him to get his own apartment.
    Be point blank with him. He's a man now. Tell him he smells bad and you can't stand it. Tell him you don't want his room to be a pig stye. If he throws back in your face that it is his room you recounter that it is YOUR room in YOUR house, therefore, he has to go by YOUR rules.
    Put your foot down and be firm.
    PrydferthMenyw

    Answer by PrydferthMenyw at 10:42 AM on May. 12, 2009

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