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My 2 yr old refuses to talk. what should i do?!

My 2 yr old refuses to talk. When he wants something, he will only grunt and point. He knows the words and understands everything. He mimics constantly. he'd rather throw a tantrum and not get anything. I feel like it's just a struggle of wills and he's trying to make me break.

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Asked by Unmei at 2:15 AM on May. 5, 2009 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • if you really think its just him refusing, than don't give in. let him throw the tantrum but he has to learn that he has to use his words to express himself. thats what the speech therapist had us do with our daughter and it worked, she also said though to not do it w/healthy foods or drinks b/c then if they really are thirsty or hungry then my dd being as stubborn as she is would rather starve herself. try to get him to just say the begining of the word, like sna for snack or something like that, and once he gets used to that and does it w/o being cued get the rest of the word in. you may also want to contact your local head start program, they will send therapist to your home to determine if he needs speech therapy and that has helped my dd alot too.

    Answer by vabchmommy at 2:24 AM on May. 5, 2009

  • Dont give in. i agree with vabchmommy about that. NEVER give in.
    but you might try using some ASL. it's simple look up some common signs on google. and it has lots of advantages, you can find out the research they've done that proves it actually HELPS children learn to talk sooner, read sooner, and overall have higher academic scores.

    Answer by outstandingLove at 2:42 AM on May. 5, 2009

  • I work with children ages 3-5 with special needs. Your son knows everyones limits and who gives in quickly and who does not. Everyone in the family needs to be consistent and expect the same outcome. If he gets to grunt and point the majority of the time, then he will continue to communicate in this way. Any of us will take the easy road if we can! Everyone needs to expect that he will at least make an attempt to say in single words what he wants or needs. If he cannot say the word then at least an approximation of the word. Ex. Says "ba" instead of ball. Have you had his hearing checked? Most of the children I see that have delayed speech have hearing difficiulties because of fluid in the ears frequently. During these times, the children hear our speech as if we were talking under water. It is very distorted.

    Answer by LovetoTeach247 at 3:14 AM on May. 5, 2009

  • You say he knows the words... is it that he can point to the object when you ask him where it is or is it that he has said the word in the past and now won't. Either is a problem and he needs to be evaluated. There is far more to speech than being able to hear or even understand what other people say. Have him evaluated by a speech therapist to see if there is a problem before you try any discipline or "never give in" techniques. If there isn't a problem, fine... go hard ball on him. If there is a problem, get him help and work with him instead of driving him into frustration.

    Answer by kaycee14 at 12:19 PM on May. 5, 2009

  • Both, to answer Kaycee's question.
    EX. He's thirsty. He knows what drink and thirsty means. He answers our questions with a yes, no, ok or nuh huh. He's said the words before.

    It's not a matter of a learning problem either. He's the smartest little cuss i know. He only has to watch someone doing something once to figure out how to do it himself. He knows how to run every electronic gadget in the house- the ipod touch, tv, copier, dvd player, cd player, computer, he can navigate through your phone to find the games.
    He only hears things once and he starts to mimic.

    Answer by Unmei at 2:43 PM on May. 5, 2009

  • Success!
    Just as i was posting the last message, his daddy got him to say thirsty!!!!!!!
    We've been trying to get him to say that since early last night.
    He had snuck out of his room last night to get into the fridge and grab the water.

    Answer by Unmei at 2:51 PM on May. 5, 2009

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