My guy sends money when he has it to help his family in Gautemala, and I'm ok with that, I don't ask him how much he sends but know he does. He pretty much takes care of his mom, dad one of his sisters. They don't have jobs but the others that live in his parents house do, but my problem is that if he doesn't have the money to send them, they cry and make him feel guilty and tell him what he does with all his money and his uncle here gets on him about not sending the rest of the family money ( uncles, aunts, cusins) because his uncle does but he make 3x the money my guy does, and I am so sick of them making him feel or less a person for not taking care of them, they are grown ups they are not kids why should he be responsible for all these people, it just drives me crazy. plus when he calls they tell him oh your dads drinking tell him to stop, or take all the responsibility. Hes 20 and has alot here and doesn't need the stressAnswer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 12:06 PM on May. 5, 2009 in Relationships
First off, your man needs to worry about his family here FIRST! He should not have to support his mom, dad sisters, cousins or whomever else. If after he gets bills paid here, groceries in the house and you all have some "extra" money to send them, go for it!! I honestly would put a stop to it until the family here comes first and is taken care of.
As for his other family members here that put him down, take a break from them and ignore them for awhile! yes, its harsh to say but honestly, he would feel so much better not having someone at his throat!
I have a friend that is in this same position with her hubby. He sends his money to mexico and refuses to help out with his daughter here along with his wife and adopted 2 boys
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