I am a step and bio Mom. My role as step Mom is as my husbands wife. That is it. My husband loves his son, has a bond that I do not have and I will Not try to force or make one that doesn't exist. I Will care for them, ie prepare foods, try to get to know him/them and let them take the lead. I will Never talk against their Mom, will encourage them to be good sons to their Mom, ie respectful which reinforces how they will ultimately treat women one day. I will display how to treat a woman in myself as well.
I will let them have their own time with their Dad and join them for other activities, ie playing games, watching a movie (making treats for movie, popcorn, desert etc). I will teach them how to help in the home, ie setting, clearing the table, helping with dishes etc as a family. I will ask them about their world etc and be "real"...they know insincerity. Above all, laugh with them. Hope this helps some. Best.
at 12:59 PM on May. 5, 2009