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I know this woman....... What do you think of her?

Who has 4 children. The oldest from her first husband, bright orange hair, pale white skin, the second from a black man who she cheated with, very tan skin, brown curly hair, brown eyes, very clearly biracial, the third and forth from her second husband, jet black hair, very tan skin(darker then her second child) and very dark eyes. The first husband is an amazing man. When she found out she was pregnant the father ran. The husband, even though he was leaving her, took that child as his own regardless of how he came out. He doesn't have his name, doesn't pay support, but in every other way, time, gifts, all his needs other then direct cash to her hands he handles. She is a very me/money person. So now this child is getting called the N word in school. None of the kids know that the first husband isn't his dad. The child has no idea that he is half black. He is 10 and has no clue how to handle this.

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Asked by Anonymous at 5:44 PM on May. 5, 2009 in General Parenting

Answers (11)
  • What does this have to do with the mom? Yeah she made some bad choices, but kids picking on the boy at school has nothing to do with her.

    Now, on the other hand, she needs to be honest with her children from the start and let them know that they do not have the same father, and let them know their background. This boy is going to endure racial slurs for the rest of his life (although it is VERY sad it is happening at 10) and he needs to be prepared for it.

    Answer by CarolynBarnett at 5:47 PM on May. 5, 2009

  • i don't think anything of her, we all make mistakes however i think she should tell her child that way he knows why this is happening to him and that its not right. just b/c his "dad' isn't really his dad doesn't make him any less a part of the family. the boy is 10, if he hasn't figured out on his own already he will eventually its kind of hard to hide something like that when it comes to major diff in skin color among family members

    Answer by vabchmommy at 5:48 PM on May. 5, 2009

  • Well someone should have a talk with him and let him know. He is old enough to understand.

    Answer by akmami0f4 at 5:49 PM on May. 5, 2009

  • she's a HOER

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:49 PM on May. 5, 2009

  • She always claims to be broke yet she has a brand new suv and pays people to do everything for her from cutting the grass to hanging her curtains. But when it comes to her kids she is broke. I think one of the worst things she did was this past summer. She promiced them all year they were getting a pool. Constantly assuring them they were getting one. Then when the time came oh poor woman had no money for a pool. All summer she had no money. But when Sept rolled around all of a sudden she had money to go on a 10 day trip to Spain and France ALONE! She never called except maybe 3 times her entire trip. How do I know? I had them from 7am until 7pm when the second husband came home. The sad part, they didn't even ask for her. And when she came back all she brought them back was, the oldest got nothing, next got a set of magnets that I have the same ones on my fridge, the next got a set of dice and the baby got a little purse.

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:49 PM on May. 5, 2009

  • why do you care so much?

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:52 PM on May. 5, 2009

  • All from the airport giftshop when she got back because she plane landed early. The day before she left was her oldest birthday. If he hadn't written it on the calendar the week before she left he would have gotten nothing. But she ran to the store and got him a pair of jeans and a shirt. No wrapping, no cake, no nothing. He was so sad. I could go on and on but I'd be here all night.

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:52 PM on May. 5, 2009

  • Unfortunately, that is a problem with a lot of bi-racial children. They are not accepted into any groups at school because they just don't fit in. I also knew a mom who actually told her kids that the first one was born with albino tendancies because he had blonde hair and blue eyes and the rest were darker.. it was very clear he did not have the same father... sigh.......

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:13 PM on May. 5, 2009

  • Damn lady you have too much time on your hands to be complaining about this woman.Doesn't sound like she is doing anything wrong, she just needs to have a talk with her son. Almost sounds like you are jealous of her.


    Answer by Anonymous at 6:24 PM on May. 5, 2009

  • that is so awful that this child was forced into this situation. Sounds like the mother is lazy and selfish. She doesn't seem to care about her kids at all. She should explain to her child who he is and why. tell him that he is wonderful how he is no matter how he came to be? why is this not happening?

    Answer by etniesalpha at 7:20 PM on May. 5, 2009

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